When you are in the pit and darkest hour, you wouldn't believe anything positive about yourself. So, if you decide to recreate your life, then you would need to borrow from the admirable traits of other people that you looked up to. Think of people that had made an impact in your life and the traits that you admired about them. List two traits for each person. These are your affirmations. Once you have written them down, began to memorize them so you could recall them at a moment’s notice. Now you have a tool to use when your thoughts would begin taking you to a bad place. You could just rattle off your affirmations. You need to rewire your brain with new and good thoughts and beliefs. By repeatedly saying them and focusing on them, you could ingrain them into your subconscious brain which would then help you become that person again.