Timing:When you recieve compliments or comments.
There’s a fine line between modesty and low self-esteem.
Having a low self-esteem however, is being dismissive of compliments regardless of the weight of your achievements.
The first person to realize your achievements will always be you. Off-handedly dismissing a compliment, whether you mean it or not, has great impact on your self-esteem.
“Thanks! I’m glad you appreciate it” or “Yes, I worked hard on that” not only makes you realize your own efforts, but it reinforces your belief in your abilities.
Please refer to the book for more details on this activity.
Acceptance is a big thing - if we can't accept the basic compliments how can we accept the hardships life bring us. I love getting compliments as it boosts my spirits.
This is one thing I worked on.. But, I also try to inject this into my patients. If I am telling someone you are doing I notcie how he reacts. If he is graciously accepting it then he is actually having a positive mindset!