• The first step is to be aware of a need or wish to change.
• The next step is to decide what to change to, which can be difficult. It can also happen that you have conflicting ideas about where or what you want to be after the change. You should create a picture of the outcome.

Have role models.

We get in our own way and sabotage ourselves because of limiting beliefs and habits that are not good for us, something we all do at times. You can also write down some of your beliefs and start questioning them. Your attitude towards yourself is associated with your limiting beliefs. When you believe that other people think positively about you, you will act differently to how you would behave if you believe they have a negative opinion of you. Seeing an opportunity in the difficulties you are faced with and having a positive and optimistic outlook on life will enable you to be happier and stop complaining.

Be optimistic.

Think about your vocabulary and how much it matters. The words we use have an influence on how we think, so watch what you say.

The experience of embracing fear increases our strength and confidence. Try to identify what distractions are problematic, for example a need to check your e-mail or mobile phone for messages. Breaking down bigger tasks into smaller ones can enable you to place greater focus on every task. Giving yourself small rewards when you accomplish things may also help you to avoid procrastinating. Calling the fear something can decrease it. Maybe what you fear is something new and unknown and therefore you are afraid.

Courage enables you to face doubt and the criticism of other people. You can “train” your courage. The more often you are courageous and look fear in the face, the more courageous you will become. First of all you may have to give yourself permission to be courageous and look upon yourself as a courageous person. Plan to reward yourself.

You should not spend much time with people who make you worry.

Create a worry period.

Ask yourself if the problem is solvable or unsolvable.

Challenge anxious thoughts.

Think about the values you wish to live your life by. Believe in yourself based on the thinking you've done about the values you're going to live your life by. Dream about the things that can be, based on your belief in yourself and the values you're going to live by.Dare to make your dreams become reality, based on your belief in yourself and your values.

Please refer to the book for more details on this activity.