Andy has overcome Anxiety and Depression which plagued his early life. Andy found he was relying on substances to cope with emotionally painful thoughts and feelings. Now a part time worker in Mental Health, this is the area that inspires him, to mentor others and now create courses. Andy studied NLP, (Neuro Linguistic programing) as his method of personal development, NLP teaches great strategies to use in our own lives and to guide others. Andy also works for MIFWA (Mental Illness Fellowship Western Australia) Facilitating peer groups, in particular BAF (Building A Future) A program over 12 weeks to assist carers of young people with mental illness, and Family Connections also a 12 week program to assist parents and carers of those with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)
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We will learn strategies in a progressive manner, completing each stage at our own individual pace, then moving on.
Here are our 5 points of intervention
1/ Environment; In Life Coaching we consider the clients environment in relation to the the people they mix with.
2/ Purpose and occupation; Here we assist our client in identifying their passion, What is their niche they want to coach in?
3/ Fellowship; In coaching people through difficult change, such as recovery from addiction, we need fellowship, a place we feel at home with like minded people.
4/ Coaching, Mentoring & Counseling; This is where we come in, people stuck in difficult psychological places, often need some individual guidance.
5/ Lifestyle & Structure; Here we assist our client in their everyday structure, does what they are doing now, aid their life change that we are coaching them towards.
In this activity we borrow from a well known professors philosophy, called Dunbars Number. The idea behind this philosophy is that we only have enough mindfulness to have between 150 & 200 friends. By this we mean if we have say 5000 FB friends and zero face to face friends, our relationship with these 5000 fb friends will not be as meaningful as it would be if we had 150 closer friends. Dunbar goes on to explain that we have differing circles of friendship, by increasing friends in certain circles we can change our reality of the world, we say this is changing our environment.
Dunbar considers that most people will have between 1 and 5 really close friends, in fact a average of 1.4 from memory, these are the type of friends that are like confidants, you can tell them or ask them anything, they will stand by you no matter what, most life partners will fall into this category. It's unusual to have more than one person in our inner circle, however it would be really beneficial if we had more. It may be worth considering that people stuck in a unhappy place, may not have anyone in their life, at that particular time.
Within our second circle of friends we may have 10 to 20, often these friends will include family and friends of partners, these are the type of friends you most like to be active with.
The outer circle of friends is made up from people you know well enough to have a conversation with, you remember the face that goes with their name, these people are often part of your fellowship, this meaning part of your like minded community, this could be your church group, or peer to peer support.