Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
We take things personally when we agree with what others have said. If we didn't agree, the things that others say would not affect us emotionally. If we did not care about what others think about us, their words or behavior could not affect us.
Even if someone yells at you, gossips about you, harms you or yours, it still is not about you! Their actions and words are based on what they believe in their personal dream.
Our personal “Book of Law” and belief system makes us feel safe. When people have beliefs that are different from our own, we get scared, defend ourselves, and impose our point of view on others. If someone gets angry with us it is because our belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared. They need to defend their point of view. Why become angry, create conflict, and expend energy arguing when you are aware of this?
Acknowledging other's point of view is also a great way to not to take things personally. This is effective in Leadership. Since, I am getting into the corporate world, I need to know in and out of it.
Taking things perfonally, makes life too much dificult. Earlier, I used to stay depressed all the time, prefered to stay in my room. Literally, I used to lock myself in, and sob.. WITH NO REASON. I was scared, I used to eat to get rid of it. But, nothing happened just put on 40 pounds. Then I started to follow this course, and I got some confidence in myself.. I got out and appllied for a job and infact got it. Now, I have changed. I am really amazed to see that. Today, I really don't go on thinking what he said... what did he mean and everything.. Now I smile a lot and I am controlling my diet too...
True thing, it is very challenging. It needs a lot off discipline so that we can reach the goal. I try not to take things personally but now or then I end up taking it. With a certain thought rolling in my mind I just across www.mindbodygreen.com and discovered "Like yoga, living this truth is a discipline, a consistent practice only reached through the genuine love of self".
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Even it is stated in holy Bible "Don't eavesdrop on others--you may hear your servant curse you." True... if we don't pay attention to all the words; it is only going to make the life better.
Ok.. Not to take anything personally.. But how... Search some easy application here it goes.
AHHHHH!! Truely anxiety, anger they are the most negative emotions.. we just spend my time and energy because we cannot handle our emotions excitement sometime... Even if we need to.. there is always a positive way to do so rather than taking everything personally and hurting ourselves.
Regained the control of my life in my own hands.
Now when I know who I am, how I am.. It really doesn't disturb me much if others thinking positive or negative. All I know if, I am good to everyone then I would be reciprocated same way..
I am bothered all the time.. Thinking and thinking..
It is really not the belief system that is weak.. as it seems to be you need to work on your confidence. Focus on the positivity of the side.. and let the result come to you. Just be confident.
I always anticipate and imagine what others belief about me. I don’t incline to; however I can’t stop thinking.
Catch yourself when you are over-thinking and do something to over-come that. You may be having values, but world doesn't work that way. but that doesn't mean you need to stop giving your efforts. Again, you need to be positive. What if you have failed to achieve something. The important part is that you have tried and you should be proud of the fact. Best Ana
No exercise... Just start believing in yourself.. Trust yourself..
A helpful piece of advice... I have been looking for it only. So glad that you took time out to help me.
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