About Me: Not that I'm a boring person, but always lost in myself. Trying hard and harder to smile. M I going mad. ooohh!!!! But now I guess I have locked up my mind for a pretty long time..Need Some fresh air!! AND NOW I SMILE :)
Look to channel your inner kindness to help someone else because, as you now know, that kindness will boomerang right back to you.
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Being an introvert person, I seldom hold back my smiles but that doesn't mean I am unkind. I just don't want people to think I am nosy or weird. everyone is busy. Well, I still do try but not religiously.
Each day got something noce for us. We just need to find it out and show some gratitude towards it. I am happy today I just realized when we help someone not thing about ourselves, there is some peace. When I bring smimle to someone's face; that is what happiness is.
5 Research-based reasons why one should be kind. For mw I don't have to make an effort.. it's reason 1 ..it's inbuilt.
Help others realise the obstacles they may face, through your own experience and knowledge can help change someone else’s trajectory.
As a matter of fact I want to help others with my experience. I have however, realized that there are certai rules to it... Figured out 8 rules of mentoring.
We always need some guidance and help to overcome difficult situations. Either, we need a friend or elder person to guide us and show the right way. I haave experience of depression and it was an awful struggle but today I am out of it. I really feel happy when I can help others in same situation.
Okay, today I am socially active. I have joined few groups and trying to help once with depression. I have overcome my depression after a long fight.
Within each of us, there is something special that can only be unlocked if we aim for happiness. You need to give to yourself.
Smiling is extremely beneficial for both our Health whether it is of body or mind. So keep smiling. I am trying it.
I remembered I first tried it in ma college. It was something I never thought actually works - but it does wonderfully. Now I do it every morning. It started with 5 minutes, now for 30.
Much relaxed and focused. Meditation also change the way I look at things.
These days, I meditate every day!
Funny, but true!
This picture motivates me inspires me for those 10 minutes. I find some strange peaceful silence - beyond words.
I visualize myself doing what I love to nd it make the medittion more easier and longer. This time, I get motivated from within. I feel energized and happy.
I have tried mantra meditation earlier but this is something new and I loved it. I didn't know but I actually meditated for around 15 minutes without losing my focus.
I can do it only for 10 minutes. I set a timer before I do so - otherwise I would simply give up in a couple of minutes. Such a restless person I am.
We can’t all devote our lives to being fully altruistic, but by devoting ourselves to an altruistic life, we can achieve great happiness. Happiness Bubbles is all about giving, which is all about being altruistic.
Firstly, think about your life and how much free time you have. Altruism is about what you have available to give. Altruism is all about doing a good deed without the expectation of reward.
Think about a skill or expertise you have such as business planning, accountancy, medical, childcare, law, teaching, etc., and how you could use this specific skill to help others who may not necessarily have the finances or who may just want some extra knowledge in that field.
I am trying to give away consultation of healthy living with serious health disorders. I have suffered a lot from depression. I have learnt a lot from my life and how to overcome the negativity - I would like to share it with others. I am going to join some forums and planning to have a group on facebook!
Don't know if I can do anything big enough but I am somewhere connected with animals. When I see a stray dog looking at me passing by, I feel the eyes were calling onto me for a cuddle. They deserve home, warm bed and food - I am going to do something about it. I am a working person now - I can put in some to help them. Further, I wish if I could volunteer some rescue group.
You can only change what and when you decide you want to change. Here we emphasize the importance of commitment as a necessary first step. If you do not realize what this problem is, you will not do much in the direction of changing your behavior for better. You have to be honest with yourself regarding bad habits you have, otherwise you will not go in the right direction when it comes to their removal. You can start writing down those things you want to change, and some of these information you can collect from the closest people. For example, how often you late usually, whether you overeat, whether you are lying etc. In order to increase your own motivation an open dialogue with people with whom you live can help. They will tell you the most acute characteristics of yourself.
I have changed myself a lot. I have overcome several problems, but I still have one problem. I think a lot mostly negative things. I need to change that now. I am sick and tired of my mind.
For example, the issue of smoking or excessive consumption of food: perhaps you lack some interesting content and activities to improve your mood and to replace the existing bad habits. For some people this represents facing with their own boredom or the apathy and dissatisfaction, which is compensated in this way. Activate yourself in those things that you like, and connect with others. Some of bad habits just make us feel good, and are therefore repeated. Seek for yourself the replacement that is medically or socially acceptable.
Some of our bad habits provide us with temporarily freedom from stress. Some of their causes are actually in a social setting. If your friends do not point to the fact that you are constantly late, you will never know the reason why should you change. These habits are going to find their reinforcement in the social environment. For example, a person who is late for a meeting becomes loaded with colleague’s information about what she had missed so far, thus getting her five minutes of attention and reinforcement to continue with such dramatic entry and delay.
I just don't know - am not an early riser. I am often late because of this reason. I just cant get it right or find a reason why I still can't give up on it.
No not sure about the reason and what holding me back. No one is able to figure that out .. but I think whenever I am alone I end up doing this.. Its like my mind need to do some work.. Messed up!
You've built your bad habits for years - so do not expect them to be solve overnight. Create a reasonable schedule based on the goals that you believe you can accomplish in one week, for example. Setting overambitious goals and then failure in them in a moment of disappointment may convince you to take this as the evidence that it is "impossible" to achieve any change! And this can eventually fall into the self-pity victim mode. If you chronically late for 20 - 30 minutes to each of your meetings, set a goal of setting out early say one hour earlier so that if you ever late by 30 minutes again, at least you are still early by 30 minutes. (It will definitely create a surprise reaction instead of annoying other people.) Instead of late by half an hour, this time you will definitely be early by half an hour, and definitely it is a good change for the start!
"What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals."
I want to help people fight depression. I used to have chronic depression. I took medications but didn't help much then I turned towards alternative treatments and spiritual healing!
Magic!
Yeah! I am running late these days and also procrastinating things!
If you want to reach your ultimate goal, you need to have insight about how well you progress, or how well you are successful in accomplishment of smaller goals that you set for the start. This means that it is advisable to identify and put in place smaller steps. After a few days of continual success, give yourself a small reward to boost your moral. Go for a movie, buy something you fancy, in other word, make yourself happy... Do not forget to verbally praise yourself for the invested effort, especially when you accomplish one of the desired goal. This will help to raise motivation and makes you feel good.
Sometimes, it feels like why did I even try but then I feel that life is not about the destination but the journey. In these years, I have chenged for better but I never realised that. When Iactually went through my old journals I noticed. What I were on 7/8/2015 and now are two different beings - so much of changes and I didn'tfail. I have improved.
These small things act as great self motivation. But when I fail I also make sure to deprive myself from something, so that I don't repeat my mistakes. Sometimes, I feel like a kid.
Step 1: Consciousness
You need to find some starters, to speak, the trigger point of these bad habits. Take for example, you are lazy and messy and your kitchen sink is always filled with dirty dishes. These triggers are cunning and they can take your progress back to zero, but there is a very simple way, and it’s so easy to get rid of them.
Make a list of your problem, their triggers and the solutions. Setting your mindset for the change is very important whether you will be successful in keeping you away from undesirable temptation.
It took me time, even to realise but finally I am able to recognize my bad habits or unproductive ones. I have successfully changed some. But some more are left. Failing at them.
I am procrastinating my tasks. May be I need to prepare a report. Just because I feel it's boring I am postponing it to the last minute then staying up whole night rubbing my eyes preparing one! I understand it's bad, I just don't find the will to do it!
I am ready with a pen and paper to analyze my bad habits and its triggers.
Step 2: Replacement
Now that you know your bad habits, it is time to replace them with good ones. Put the good habits that you want to replace on your list of problems i.e. bad habits. You will need to take action to achieve replacing with good habits.
Step 3: Time management
It takes, on average, a time frame period of 21 days to develop a habit. Again, 21 days in a row. You will not achieve anything if you only do it for the first three days, return to your old habit on the fourth day and then back to the new habit on the fifth day onwards. This causes a break in momentum and thus will not be effective.
Sometime some habits need much more than 21 days. Sometime even a month is not enough to change a habit. It has been a tough ourney for me - I changed some bad ones, failed at some. Sometimes, it is just to frustrating.
Consistence is the key to adopt changes. Whenver, I fail once and break the chain, I start over again.
Rome wasn't built in a day.. So I can never expect to adapt a good habit in a day..
I am working to make it happen getting rid of my bad habits.
Acceptance needs time.. It even took me 2 years to accept ...but it did.
It actually takes time to change or adapt a new habit. For me, it was tough to practice yoga! But, yes I did it forcefully for month then it happened as if it was meant to..
COMMON MISTAKES
1. Trying to change more habits at the same time. This is probably the most common mistake.
Change one habit at a time. Embrace patience in order to change your life.
2. We do not give enough time for new habit to be fully adopted.
Allow yourself 60-90 days to adopt new habits or replace old bad habits.
3. Restoration of the old bad habit because of a sense of comfort.
Remind yourself of all the negativities that the old habit create and the benefits the change will bring. Determination and commitment are all that you need to overcome fear or sense of comfort.
4. Targeting perfection instead of improving.
Perfection is impossible. Remind yourself that you are not a superman each time you are tempted to give up. it is important to put in effort for the change. There may be a little loss or rhythm but you can still do make some improvement.
5. Replacing an old habit with a new one is better than removing one and creating a vacant space.
All the habits have or used to have a function in a perdon's life. When they are eliminated from the behavior, an unfulfilled space is let behind. This empty space will eventually seek for fulfillment and unless you fill it with a new and good habit, otherwise it may find a similar behavior as per you previous bad habit and even return to your old habit.
6. learn from your own mistakes and others success
It is important to grow and prosper in life continuously, which require changes in old patterns, habits, and behaviors. It is not easy. Avoid the most common mistakes to facilitate changing destructive habits. But you have to be patient and persistent. Learn from the mistakes of others. Why should you repeat other's mistake when you can avoid them.
I had a bad habit of morning tea on empty stomach. I was taking a toll on my health. That was 3 years back. Now, I take healthy detoxifying drink that has improved my skin and health both. So, yes. One habit changed - mission successful.
I am too much impatient. I am probably not giving enough time to my new habits.
To a successful person, they take real life as a game everyone plays. Successful people realize this fact and they set priorities to organize their time better. This life strategy opens up a space for personal growth and creativity. This helps them to not to perceive reality too seriously. It helps in increasing confidence.
They speak what's on their mind without the fear of condemnation. They are brave enough to think loud which helps in creating a positive mindset.
Successful people go through their fear to become emotionally stronger. It is important to look for opportunities in problems. If you do this regularly, you will attract more opportunities.
Don't waste time dreaming. Taking necessary measures in accordance with your wishes. They don't procrastinate to enter in relationship, or to invest money in something. They realize it is necessary to perform all the way until the door is opened.
They are not familiar with plan B. They know what they want and go through all the way to make their dream a reality. They try not to complain about the lack of money, love, success and joy in their lives. Regardless of personal and environmental conditions they are trying to keep the faith in a good future. They simply live the life they have imagined. Dare to Dream, Dare to take Action. You are always closer to your dream if you set your mind to accomplishing small goals.
There is always this inner beliefs these people deserve being the best in this world which help to forget most fear and at the same time to raising their standard. Anyway, they only associate with people who will treat them with respect. They know that they are worth it, and accept only the best in life. It usually affects the type of people they are attracted to, the financial success and the level of health they have.
Rules can be helpful, especially when they are here to protect your own security. There is a nice saying: "The rules are meant to be broken." Successful people are trying to go against the tide and make their own rules, for which they believe will give them the freedom and opportunity to improve their lives. Furthermore, they set the rules in their minds, following them until they reach their goal.
Many of us are afraid to ask. We are afraid to ask for help, we have a fear of asking for a raise, we are afraid to ask for money and so on. This is common and unexpected behavior that makes people look weak and unsafe. Successful people are connected to their passions and express their needs without guilt, fear and shame. When they ask someone for something, they focus and expect a positive outcome. If you don’t ask you will never get an answer. Go ahead and ask your boss the pay raise.
Successful people like to have teachers and mentors to learn something new and move in right direction.
Many people often start to do something and refuse to move forward for the fear of rejection, failure or a broken ego. The process of leaving the comfort zone is a difficult thing. Successful people feel comfortable even when they are embarrassed. Despite all the problems and matters they may feel uncomfortable about they focus on they focus on the positive moments.
I see. Probably, I am not being comfortable with the task! But how to be comfortable? I am just getting confused - getting a headache!! OOOOh! Please help!
Nothing creates a bigger jolt of enthusiasm than a new inspiring vision of the future. Even if it's something small it can provide you with a new direction.
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I tried to set a small goal today. I was feeling down - not really upset or angry. I don't know what was it, but I was not able to take it anymore after 13 hours. So I decided to set a small goal for myself. I decided that I would change the decor of my room. Not entirely but little.
I kiind of really worked as I got busy with the task and then the change made me so happy.
You can give yourself a boost in accomplishment by finding the smallest task you need to complete and doing it.
It's weekend, but I was feeling too much down this morning. So, I decided to find my smallest "to-do"... I just put my clothes into laundry. I was going to do it late in the evening. Then I prepared my weekly to-do and grocery list ready. By the endo of it, I was actually feeling much better. It was strange to me but GREAT.
Find something to laugh about, and if you can’t, laugh anyways.
Sometime we must try to laugh without any reason. It just builds up our will to be happy.
I thinkn I should laugh more often. I feel like I am some psycho. Generally, when my puppy throws tantrums, I get upset. But I laughed today. I actually started to enjoy the mess.
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Today, I counselled another friend of mine. Okay, I don't want to call it a counselling .. I was just being with her. That's what friends do. I feel I am a good friend. Made me happy.
I never got a chance to donate blood, but I do counsel and help my cousins and friends. They say, I am a jolly good adviser.
Call up some friends or make some new ones and use your brain for what it was made for.
I just got in touch with an old school friend of mine. It almost after a decade. I would also be meeting her over the weekend. It would be great fun to relive the old times.
Probably, this is the reason. I am actually pretty introvert. In today's world, it sounds crazy. But it's true.
I just logged into my facebook almost after an year today. In fact, I forgot the password, had to recover it. As I went on with it, I don't know how I end up spending 2 hours doing nothing. But I am happy.
Find something to get you inspired, even if just for a short time. Hear a couple audio recordings of motivational speakers. Consider replacing your daily caffeine with some inspiration to give you energy instead.
I have started believing things a differents.. There are music, books, quotes, audios to inspire us.. but we also need to find the inspiration within us. I am presently working on that.
I got really motivated by this video I came across on Youtube. I don't feel useless or powerless anymore. I feel happy. Finally I found strength inside me.
Spend a half hour doing some exercise. It will make you feel good and you can also take pride in your pursuit of a healthy body.
I tried it as an experiement. I was upset a few days back - I rescheduled my day and went to gym in the day ( I was supposed to go in the evening). It took me 10 minutes of treadmill to feel better but as I went along with my rountine strength training, everything change. I totally go with it now. Exercise works miracle.
I am weighing too much these days - gained 40 pounds in 15 days. I have start working out - I am having too much difficulty to breath. I jogged for 2 miles in the morning.
This is the best thing or habit I have taken on.. I started to exercise.. I feel less deressed. Actually, I ain't depressed anymore.
Change the way you hold your body to reflect someone who is happier. Faking your state can bring back associations to a more positive state. Emotions and body language are two-way streets.
I have been extremely influenced by American Chiropractic Association's post . I really don't want the consequences. The post has been an eye opener for me. I am going to workout on my posture from right now.
That's a bad thing that I gonna reveal. I almost bend over my new lappy and after months of enjoyment ( what I thought of it) I got this excruciating pain at my back. Got a cervical collar and several other exercises - but most importantly I needed to maintain good posture. I started maintaining the posture by force, now it feel happy and confident as well. I don't need to do much exercie as well.
Put on some music that makes you feel good.
It's my life..... It's now or never!
I love Rihanna, JLO! In fact, I am listening to them right now. Whenever, I hear them, I just want to dance... I am dancing now! :)
Spend a few minutes in a park or in the wilderness. Notice the sounds of birds and the smells and sensations of nature. Utilize those positive associations you have with the tranquility of nature to boost your mood and get away from the glow of your monitor.
Sometime I wonder what is there that wikihow hasn't covered! But it is always informative ... different ways to get closer to nature! I do the 6th step but trying out others as well now.
Remove some of the distance and reach out. Just watch the peppers pray when hugging complete strangers.
Just sit with your eyes closed and sensitize yourself to your own thoughts and feelings. Better yet, combine this hack with hack number nine for a double hit of tranquility.
Engage yourself completely in what you are doing.
Whether combined with hack number five or a solo event, playing a game can give you a positive boost of energy. Even just ten minutes of a casual computer game can give you a little mental reprieve from daily problems.
Deconstruct your thoughts by writing them down. Journaling can break down tough problems and it can also help you redirect your thoughts to more positive areas.
I do have a journal I call it "Mimo" my friend who listens .. help me to calm down! It has always helped me ..I started doing it since 4th standard.
Spend a little time to look back on fond memories, challenges overcome and goals achieved.
The best and the worst thing about time is that it changes. I took this advice that spend some tiems strolling back into my memory lane where I first time did coleman slide perfectly, became the prefect of my class. I never gave up then, why do I give up now? I won't give up not now...or ever!
Look around and feel grateful about the things you already have and the life you already lead.
Listen to the quiet. Turn off every sound possible so you can actually hear what silence sounds like. It might require a drive to a more secluded location, or turning off appliances in your house.
I often get restless in silence. I never knew it can make happy. On this I had to know how... I found out the reason in tinybuddha.com
Try sitting and smiling for one or two minutes and see if you feel any better. This is a very quick hack and even a brief smile can create a tiny jolt.
Gestalt therapy is a psychological tool, of which one of the focuses is to get people to notice the gestalt, or the relationship between figure and ground. Spend a few minutes moving your focus around through your toes and up to your head.
Get up and move. The only bad dancer is the one who doesn’t dance at all. Use this hack in combination with hack number nine.
I have been dancing (at least trying to move a little) in my room. I am a bit free now and more open. I am happy.
I have gained so much of weight that I can't put my profile picture anywhere. I am too shy to go out - dancing is next to impossible. Not just I hesitate but it really can't due to my heavy weight. I was upset (for my weight) this morning, as my kid came to me played some of her kiddie tune on and hold my hand and started moving. Even my pup started jumping in happiness. In no time I was smiling and even moved along for next 3 minutes - but had to give up - I was running out breath.
I have always been shy about dancing but it is ok do a few moves in my room. No one gets a chance to know how pathetic I am at dancing.
But, it feels great .. the music and beats. I actually enjoyed it ... So happy I got over my shyness.
Do something creative. Small acts of creation can yield amazing boosts of accomplishment, inspiration and well-being.
I was feeling down this Christmas. I had twisted leg, I slipped over the front door. I don't know how. I was supposed to go see my family.. but I was asked to absolute bedrest. I intended that my hubby and my daughter visits granny even if I can. Offcourse, we caught up over skype and all but still.
Anyways, I then thought of creating something but I couldn't go anywhere. So I found some cotton, a pair or socks, scissors, threads inside my bedside table and I ended up making a couple of snowmen.. It was a nice christmas decor.. My daughter loved it as she returned home and now they rest on the shelves in my daughter's room! Yeah! Creating something new made me really happy.
Find a phrase you like and repeat it in your head. You could incorporate a mantra into your daily routine or just use it when you need it. A mantra acts as an anchor to quickly bring you into a conditioned state of mind.
I always worry.. So my self-made mantra is "take a chillpill" "Don't think so much. It is all fine".
Commit to going another 10% further on your project before quitting. Give it that extra bit of intensity before giving up. Even if that little bit of intensity is futile, there is nothing more satisfying than properly exerted willpower.
Whether it is the book, cooking, child's homework, or some relationship, we should not just give it up because it's not working. Another 10% will at least make me feel that I did my best (even if it doesn't turn out right).
Take a short breather to recoup your energy or a vacation to revitalize your spirit. Completely relaxing and giving up the tension you have in your body feels good. If you don’t already, schedule out some times where you can really relax and let stress melt away, even if only for a few minutes a day.
This is the first time, I have tried this. I must say that it feels so good. I would like to do it again soon.
Drink some water. Hydrating yourself fully can keep you energized. More energy means less stress and frustration.
I am always dehydrated - this is probably the reason/cause of half of my health problems. I always try and commit to drink water.
I am not a big fan of drinking water. I feel ashamed to say this but I had to accept it. I am trying to have water...
I also feel thirsty when I am tensed or upset. Otherwise, I don't drink too much of water.
Take some deep breaths. Try to see how slow you can make your breathing. Spend a few minutes just observing your own breathing and you can have a mental reprieve from your problems as well.
Do something you’ve never done before. Exploring something new can give you a boost in happiness through variety and excitement. Cook a new meal. Travel to a new place. Take a different route to work. Listen to some new music.
I am scared of hieght ...I never tried any fun rides. But I am going to this weekend. Really scared and excited.
No, not just online print (except for this blog, of course), but actual books. The kind made with paper. Reading, either fiction or non-fiction, opens you up to ideas with far more depth than can be skimmed in a television show or a blog entry. If you don’t always have a book to read at any time, go to the library and pick one up.
Last weekend I went out shopping for some novels. I have finished all my books required something new so got 2 more from Ian Rankin.
Reading a book... I guess I am a bookworm.
I love reading and recentyl finished a book "Country Brides". I literally forgot, why I was so anxious or stress after reading.
I have started reading a Joanna Lindsey novel, "One heart to Win". Romantic novels always captivate me and make me happy.
Stop trying to be happy and just let your emotions be. Accept how they are and don’t judge your feelings as good or bad. Once you detach and listen to your emotions you can start finding ways to get past them.
Brilliant piece of advice. More I try to swim against the current, more I will be hurt. Better concentrate of safeguarding myself while flowing with it..
Sometime we need not to be rich to help someone. Just an act of kindness is enough.. I helped a kid today. Some other kids were making fun of the little boy. I felt so bad I couldn't resist to not to interfere. Later I got him back to his home. And he took me as his friend - oh! that was so so sweet..Nothing else could make me happier than this.